When parents decide to end their romantic relationship, they can’t just walk away from each other and never speak again. Instead, they have to work as a parenting team to do what’s best for the children. This isn’t always easy, and holidays may increase the stress of having to work together.
One of the most important things to remember is that you and your ex should work out a parenting time schedule specifically for the holidays. This ensures that both adults and the children know where the kids will spend each holiday.
Schedules may need to change
Even the most thought-out holiday parenting schedule may not work every year. Because of this, you and your ex should be able to have open and calm discussions about potential changes that need to be made.
Any changes that are made should be based on what’s best for the children, and remembering this can do away with a lot of unnecessary tension. If you and your ex can’t agree on how to address conflicts with the schedule, it might be best to take a step back and consider the options before coming back to resume the discussion.
For example, if it’s your year to have the children for Labor Day, but your ex finds out that there is a big family reunion for that weekend, it might be in the best interests of the children to go to the reunion. This allows them to spend time with family members they don’t see often. You may be able to work out having your children for a long weekend that would normally be your ex’s.
Early planning is beneficial
While it’s understandable that last-minute issues may come up sometimes, it’s typically best to address potential problems or conflicts as soon as they arise. This gives you and your ex a chance to compromise without being stressed about time running out to make the decision.
The holiday parenting time schedule and any other terms related to the children should be included in the parenting plan. Having someone on your side who can help you navigate this might be beneficial.