Even when a divorce, ultimately, is the right decision for a California couple to make, the process of divorce is, at best, a very difficult challenge. This situation is even more exacerbated when children are involved. However, there are considerations that are within the control of the parties of the divorce that can make matters far more difficult than need be or, alternately, make the process more bearable for all concerned. This is true even when the divorce involves highly contested issues that are central to the dissolution.
Relationship counselors understand that although the best approach to divorce is to be objective, approach each issue analytically and not act out of emotional pain, this is very difficult to do for the average person. Perhaps the realization the divorce will only take longer, be more costly and often result in an unsatisfactory conclusion may cause the parties to take a step back and take a deep breath and work towards a mutually agreeable resolution. Nonetheless, despite how the parties conduct themselves, the divorce will proceed.
Other considerations involve being aware of the legal matters of divorce and understanding individual finances moving forward. For instance, divorce involves dividing assets, many times in equal shares, but this does not mean the parties receive exactly the same property. More likely, they will receive equivalent assets, which then may trigger different tax consequences and long-range planning issues. If, during the marriage, one spouse took little control over finances, he or she may be ill-prepared to establish and maintain a budget and may further be disadvantaged by not having appropriate or necessary earning-power.
Finally, in addition to approaching divorce with the proper mindset and understanding the legal and financial issues it entails, it is important to know when to consult professionals. In addition to an experienced family law lawyer, a CPA, financial planner and family counselor can be of great value.